Masculinity and fatherhood

Although we're all fully capable of experiencing the full range of human emotions, for many men discussing emotional issues that need to be addressed can present certain difficulties. Among the emotional coping mechanisms that occur in men, the most common are avoidance, denial, self-medication through the use of alcohol or other substances, poor anger management, inadequate impulse control, and problems with emotional and sexual intimacy.

A real man, a good father

For many men, the healthy expression of negative feelings can in itself be a challenge. The typical male tends to rely more heavily on a “logical or rational” approach to most emotional or psychological issues. Often from childhood, men have been accustomed to think that emotional vulnerability equals weakness and should be avoided as much as possible. Given this mindset, it is understandable that for many men it may be objectively difficult to share with others how they are truly feeling. For some, it may even be difficult to read their own emotions correctly, to know for themselves how they are really feeling about certain issues. Interpersonal issues can arise that may require an adjustment of these beliefs and attitudes, as for example in the inability to connect, to open up in relationships, or in knowing how to be sensitive. When negative emotions are routinely avoided, repressed or denied, some problematic behaviors can result. Mismanaged emotions and feelings often produce addictions, compulsions, and avoidance. Some of the most common ways of expressing hurt or emotional pain are through anger; working longer hours to avoid relationship challenges; engaging in superficial intimacy rather than genuine connections; or resorting to addictive substances and compulsive behaviors to “take the edge off” or avoid the full experience of negative feelings. There are many ways of addressing men’s issues. One approach that is generally successful seeks to coach men towards the identification of and the working through avoidance, repression and denial in a way that appeals to men’s desire to approach issues in a logical, rational and goal-oriented way–while providing guidance toward learning about the values and benefits of high emotional intelligence.

The right approach

Mismanaged emotions and feelings often produce addictions, compulsions, and avoidance. Some of the most common ways of expressing hurt or emotional pain are through anger; working longer hours to avoid relationship challenges; engaging in superficial intimacy rather than genuine connections; or resorting to addictive substances and compulsive behaviors to “take the edge off” or avoid the full experience of negative feelings. There are many ways of addressing men’s issues. One approach that is generally successful seeks to coach men towards the identification of and the working through avoidance, repression and denial in a way that appeals to men’s desire to approach issues in a logical, rational and goal-oriented way–while providing guidance toward learning about the values and benefits of high emotional intelligence.

Get help

To make an appointment with Dr. Z, call (678) 554-5632 or click the blue button to request an appointment using the online form. We can go over your current situation, identify the ways in which the lingering effects of your upbringing (absent father, abusive father, poor role models) are affecting your life and that of your loved ones, or how current conflicts or lack of initiative are impairing important relationships. We will put some dimensions to the problem, and identify your current resources that may be applied toward meaningful and lasting change. If additional resources and skills are needed, we will treat your severe symptoms and help you feel calmer and increase your ability to choose the most appropriate response to each situation. Treating masculinity issues is feasible, it’s proven to be effective, and has helped many people who had a variety of different symptoms and challenges. Call and make your appointment today and we can get started!

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