From time to time, during the course of counseling, psychotherapy, trauma treatment or coaching, I may recommend certain books and resources to my clients. These recommendations are available on Amazon (generally) and may be purchased directly from the directory here below.

Dr. Z's Relationship Tips and Nuggets is a compilation of the counseling and advice given to couples who are dating, become engaged, and decide to get married.

A quick read in two dozen short chapters, for a total of 59 pages, packed with information and actionable Quick Guides on the most important topics, such as Communication, Conflict Resolution and Relationship Repair.

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A reflection on marriage and its consequences, for Christian couples, Safer Together Forever is a summary of the fundamental ideas that constitute the foundation of marriage.

Written by Dr. Z , it is appropriate for reading by couples of any faith background who accept that the principles of the Christian faith are sound and can help anyone create a lasting, loving and strong relationship with another person.

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I recommend this book by Patrick Fanning: The Addiction Workbook: A Step-by-Step Guide

These other two books are also very good on the topic of sex addiction:
False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sex Addiction by Harry Schaumburg
Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict by Patrick Carnes

Abused as a Child

I recommend this book by Eliana Gil: Outgrowing the Pain


This book by Greenberg and Padesky is the best on this topic, in my opinion: Mind Over Mood: Change the Way You Feel By Changing the Way You Think

Marriage & Relationships

The all-time classic that helps us understand each other: Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

I recommend any and all books by Dr. John Gottman on the subject of marriage:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail by John Gottman
The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide by John Gottman
Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage by John Gottman

Premarital & Singles

A wonderful essay on a very important topic by Dr. Hendrix. Read the book: Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix and then get this workbook: Getting the Love You Want Workbook

Also very good reads:

Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide by Harville Hendrix
Are You the One for Me: Knowing Who by Barbara De Angelis
Love Is Letting Go of Fear by Gerald G. Jampolsky
Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself by Pia Mellody

Trauma Management

This is my favorite: Trauma, PTSD, Grief & Loss by Dubi, Powell and Gentry

Counseling Adolescents Through Loss, Grief by Pamela A. Malone
Trauma: Teaching kids all about trauma by Robert D. Edelman
Life After Grief: How to Survive Loss by Mel Lawrenz Ph.D.
Loss, Trauma, and Resilience: Therapeutic by Pauline Boss
A Safe Place for Caleb by Paul J. Chara
A Safe Place for Caleb by Sheryl Sandberg
The Shack: Where Tragedy Confronts Eternity by William P. Young

Spiritual Interests

The best-selling blend of psychology and Christian faith by Dr. Mark Baker:

The Greatest Psychologist Who Ever Lived by Mark W. Baker
Overcoming Shame by Mark W. Baker

Joshua: A Parable for Today by Joseph F. Girzone
by Max Lucado
The Future of Man by Teilhard de Chardin
The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell
The Grace of God by Andy Stanley

Clinical Research in Neuroscience (Professional Texts)

If you like neuroscience as much as I do, these are excellent books:

Foundational Concepts in Neuroscience by David E. Presti
Neuroscience by Dale Purves
Neuroscience For Dummies by Frank Amthor
Neuroscience: Fundamentals for Rehabilitation by Laurie Lundy-Ekman
by Michael S. Gazzaniga
Your Brain Is a Time Machine by Dean Buonomano


I recommend this book by Janis Abrams Spring: After the Affair

These three other books are also very good:
Love Must Be Tough by James Dobson
Back from Betrayal by Jennifer P. Schneider
Torn Asunder Recovering From An Extramarital Affair by Dave Carder M.A.

Anger Management

I recommend this book by Gary Chapman: Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

These other books on anger management are also very good:
The Other Side of Love: Handling Anger by Gary Chapman
Unglued: Making Wise Choices by Lysa TerKeurst
Unglued Devotional by Lysa TerKeurst
by Andy Stanley
Dance of Anger: A Womans Guide by Harriet Lerner
The Other Side of Love: Handling Anger by Gary Chapman

Grief & Loss

This book by Maggie Callanan can be particularly helpful: 

And this book can help explain the process of grieving: On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Men's Issues

One of my favorites is: The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by Bell Hooks

Masculinities by R. W. Connell
Exploring Masculinities: Identity by C. J. Pascoe
by Hunter Drew
The Rational Male - Positive Masculinity by Rollo Tomassi
The Mask of Masculinity: How Men Can  by Lewis Howes
Man Up!: The Quest for Masculinity by Jeffrey Hemmer
by Robert Augustus Masters


I highly recommend this book by Dr. Popkin: Active Parenting of Teens

And these other very good books on the subject:

by Micheal H. Popkin PhD
Raising a Thinking Child: Help Your Young  by Myrna Shure
Raising a Thinking Preteen by Myrna B. Shure
Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
The 10 Most Common Mistakes Good Parents by Dr. Kevin Steede


The classic is:  by Daniel Goleman

These are also very good:

Social Intelligence: The New Science by Daniel Goleman
Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort and Joy by Sarah Ban Breathnach
Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No by Henry Cloud
The Road Less Traveled, Timeless Edition by M. Scott Peck


This is the best book on this difficult to discuss topic: Betrayal of Innocence: Incest and Its Devastation by Susan Forward and Craig Buck

The Courage to Heal - Third Edition by Ellen Bass