From time to time, during the course of counseling, psychotherapy, trauma treatment or coaching, I may recommend certain books and resources to my clients. These recommendations are available on Amazon (generally) and may be purchased directly from the directory here below.

Dr. Z’s Relationship Tips and Nuggets is a compilation of the counseling and advice given to couples who are dating, become engaged, and decide to get married.

A quick read in two dozen short chapters, for a total of 59 pages, packed with information and actionable Quick Guides on the most important topics, such as Communication, Conflict Resolution and Relationship Repair.

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A reflection on marriage and its consequences, for Christian couples, Safer Together Forever is a summary of the fundamental ideas that constitute the foundation of marriage.

Written by Dr. Z , it is appropriate for reading by couples of any faith background who accept that the principles of the Christian faith are sound and can help anyone create a lasting, loving and strong relationship with another person.

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Dr. Z’s Favorites

The classic | The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck
Read this if you’re looking | Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
Or this if you’re married | The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman
This is good for marriages on the brink | Why Marriages Succeed or Fail by John M. Gottman
Your child needs a high EQ | Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
For when anger is the enemy | Make Anger Your Ally by Neil Clark Warren
The man, the myth, the reality | Iron John: A Book About Men by Robert Bly 
Emotions are brain matter | The Emotional Brain by Joseph Ledoux

Attention Deficit

Worth giving it a try | Taking Charge of ADHD by Russell A. Barkley

Abused as a Child

Yes, you can outgrow it | Outgrowing the Pain by Eliana Gil 


The classic on depression | Mind Over Mood: Change How You Feel by Dennis Greenberger


Don’t just forgive… do it radically! | Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping
As is often the case, sorry won’t cut it | When Sorry Isn’t Enough by Gary Chapman
Perhaps the most important person to forgive is you | How To Forgive Ourselves Totally by R.T. Kendall

Marriage & Relationships

Never been truer | Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray
A good book if you’re looking for a mate | Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
This is for you, if you’re married | The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman 
How to set it up just right | Why Marriages Succeed or Fail by John M. Gottman
Dr. Gottman knows what he’s talking about| The Relationship Cure by John Gottman
Only ten, but important ones | Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage by John Gottman

Premarital & Singles

Yes, this may be you | Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood
I’m in a relationship, now what? | Keeping the Love You Find: A Personal Guide by Harville Hendrix
The answer to the key question | Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who’s Right by Barbara De Angelis
Fear and love don’t mix too well | Love Is Letting Go of Fear by Gerald G. Jampolsky
Too much of a good thing | Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody

Spiritual Interests

Spirituality for today | He Still Moves Stones by Max Lucado
Timeless | The Future of Man by Teilhard de Chardin
More insightful than ever | The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell

Anger Management

It is possible to tame anger | Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion by Gary Chapman
Anger is another way of expressing hurt | The Other Side of Love: Handling Anger by Gary Chapman 
The consequences of anger | Unglued: Making Wise Choices by Lysa TerKeurst
Prayer helps with anger | Unglued Devotional: 60 Days by Lysa TerKeurst
Anger and its many effects | Enemies of the Heart: Breaking Free by Andy Stanley 
A woman’s perspective on anger | Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide by Harriet Lerner 

Eating Disorders

When food becomes a prison | The Golden Cage: The Enigma of Anorexia by Hilde Bruch 

Grief & Loss

What the dying can tell us | Final Gifts by Maggie Callanan
A doctor explains it all | How We Die: Reflections on Life’s Final Chapter by Sherwin B. Nuland
The classic on grief and loss | On Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Humor & Healing | Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

Men’s Issues

A way to understand ourselves better | The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by Bell Hooks
There are many kinds of men | Masculinities by R. W. Connell 
Analysis and reflection on men | Exploring Masculinities by C.J. Pascoe
A month’s worth of advice | 31 Days to Masculinity: A Guide to Help Men by Hunter Drew
Positive is the key word | The Rational Male – Positive Masculinity Rollo Tomassi 
Is masculinity a mask? | The Mask of Masculinity by Lewis Howes 
Better advice was never given | Man Up!: The Quest for Masculinity by Jeffrey Hemmer 


Dr. Dan Siegel’s best work on children | The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel & T P Brayson
Dr. Popkin’s best advice on teens | Active Parenting of Teens Parent’s Guide by Michael H. Popkin 
Revised and updated edition | Active Parenting Today by Micheal H. Popkin PhD
A good book for thinking parents | Raising a Thinking Child by Myrna Shure
Especially for preteens | Raising a Thinking Preteen by Myrna B. Shure
Dr. Gottman on EQ and children | Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
There are many more than 10, but this is a good start | The 10 Most Common Mistakes Good Parents Make by Dr. Kevin Steede

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