An easy to read, concise paper on how to create a good marriage that is a safe haven for both spouses. In its fold, both partners come to feel emotionally secure and emotionally stable. They become physically, emotionally and cognitively connected to each other. There is no challenge or difficulty that cannot be confronted and successfully managed together, as a couple. In the safe haven of marriage, each spouse feels freer to be truly herself or himself. Both partners learn to make adjustments  to better fit their personality to the other, and over time these changes become almost effortless, are positively motivated, and are long-lasting. Neither feels compelled to be significantly different from his or her true self.