My Approach to Premarital Counseling
In working with couples who are contemplating marriage, I may begin working with just one partner if that’s who comes in first. I find that this is often the case, as one partner may elect to “scout out” a suitable counselor. In this case, i begin by exploring with the individual his or her goals and aspirations for the relationship and the challenges that may already be present and noticeable. At some point, the counseling moves to involving both partners (usually after a coupe of sessions with the partner who came in first.) It is at this juncture that I utilize a frequently updated online assessments with which I am very familiar and that I have been using for years, the Prepare Enrich Assessment. It is a 250-question tool that helps analyze the couple’s attitudes and beliefs on an extensive range of topics, including communication styles, conflict resolution skills, and many more. The Prepare Enrich assessment results, which I share with the couple, help establish a baseline for the next five-six sessions in working through the issues and differences that need attention.